I do not think it works quite like that. After all, you're saying that I should have prepared for a tradition that I've never once in my life celebrated nor know a great deal about. I do not expect you to read the books that I read, to attend the lectures or debates that I do, nor to share in many such other enjoyments that you've oftentimes deemed "boring," even though I'd love you to. Yet these, too, are very central to my way of life. The concept of expecting someone to have made such an adjustment prior to at least discussing it with them contradicts a bit with the idea of accepting them as they are, does it not? And here, I thought that was given.